When communicating with your partner, self-soothe BEFORE opening your mouth. If we’re angry, overly emotional, or react too quickly, this spells disaster!
Typically, nothing good comes from interacting when one or both of you are angry. Why? Because when we are fuming, the survival brain is the one talking, and it’s common for couples to say things that hurt or they regret. One word to avoid is the D word: divorce. Using this as a threat creates a tremendous lack of safety for your partner. And when upset, you may feel like escaping, but that’s likely all it is: an escape from feeling deeply hurt. Cool down. Get back to your heart.